April 15, 2010

The Babysitting Conundrum

We have had many, many offers for people to watch our little boy. The offers began before he was born and have grown over the last three months to the point where I am sure that we will never want for a babysitter. In fact, I'm fairly certain that if there had been a way for his grandparents to babysit him while he was in the womb, they would've dueled to the death over the opportunity.

Now that Nathaniel has been with us for a few months, Jonathan and I have become accustomed to bringing him with us when we go out. We are THAT couple when we go to restaurants. You know, the couple where it starts like this and disintegrates into this. And when things go downhill because SOMEBODY only napped for 15 minutes that afternoon, it's a little difficult to have quality conversations. As such, the only time Jonathan and I have solely for each other is after the babe goes down for the night. Or if we employ the services of one of our 6 billion potential babysitters.


Jonathan and I have gone out on ONE date without the babe since he was born. That is one date in 107 days.

Am I complaining? Certainly not. The thing is, I don't want to be away from my baby. I have ABSOLUTELY NO DESIRE to leave him and go out, despite the fact that I find my husband to be as sexy and irresistible as ever. Honestly, I would much rather go to a restaurant, fussy baby in tow, than to kiss him goodbye for an evening. And that is no reflection whatsoever on our babysitting crew. Because, despite what you may have seen about my family on cable TV, Jonathan and I are blessed with families that aren't crazy. And who make great babysitters.

It must be a mama thing. Because I know that it is important to find balance in my life. Balance between time with the babe and time with my husband. And not the kind of balance you would find on a seesaw. But that is where my sense of balance has been lately and change needs to happen. Not only for my sanity, but also for my marriage. Because I'm not going to be the wife that wakes up in 20 years and doesn't know the man lying next to her in bed.

So brace yourselves, ladies and gentlemen. Because sometime in the next month, you will all be talking me down off the ledge as I prepare to go out for an evening. Without the babe.

6 comments:

  1. Good for you! It's so important for you and the hubs to have alone time. I think every parent has those worries about the babysitter and it's a huge trust factor for every new momma.

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  2. I think that's great! We tried going on a date when J was about 5 weeks old... we were so nervous we rushed through it and didn't really enjoy ourselves! We might try again, I'd REALLY like to see a playoffs game (GO DEVILS!).

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  3. We did it once. She stayed with her grandparents and I worried the whole time. :) I hope it goes well, I love how you are thinking of time with you and DH, so important and I feel like a lot of us miss that.

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  4. Thanks for the encouragement ladies! It's gonna be tough but Jonathan and I really do need a little time to focus on each other and our marriage. I just have to keep reminding myself that it will be worthwhile in the long run...

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  5. You can do it!!! It will be great for both you and Nathaniel. When you pick him up for the sitter, you will be feel refreshed!!!

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  6. I couldn't find a comment box on today's picture... My little girl (who shares your little guys Dec 30 bday) also hates tummy time. It lasts about 1-2 min before she is completely mad! Back please Mama! :-)

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